Husbands

This is my life: Husband

This is my husband, he's a pediatric doctor.  HAHAHAH! Just kidding.  This is Anthony cutting Jamison umbilical cord.  He's not a pediatric doctor, but he is a scientist.  Seeing these pictures of him, he looks like a total natural (and mighty good in the scrubs), but I can tell you, his stomach is not a total natural!

“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:6-9 <----This is our wedding scripture.  Man o Man does it hold truth! A truth you don't really comprehend. A wedding day is the most important day of your life.  To me anyways.  Yes, having babies is amazing, the day you hold your little muffin in your arms:amazing, having a life with the man I love is amazing. I wouldn't have all this if I were not married to this man. (it's not all hunky dory, but we will get to that) .  I vowed to this man. So, you start your journey together as a married couple. So easy right? nope.  First thing, you leave your "father and mother and be united".  No longer are you dependable on your parents. This becomes YOUR journey together.  

 We got pregnant with Connor six months after being married. (Did I mention that we were told we were having a girl, hence the pink all over baby shower!)  So, our first year of being married, was also thrown in with the awesome pregnancy hormones ;). I remember one day we were looking at houses to buy (we lived in an apartment), and he made me so upset that I threw a laundry basket at him!  This all because he was probably being rational and focusing on the money than my dream "mind" and I threw a laundry basket at him. haha. I can laugh now, but in that moment, no no. We ended up buying a townhouse, which is where we live now and are raising our family of 5.

 During our first couple years of being married, we had your typical little arguments.  Spending/Saving money, chores around the house, helping out at night when the children would wake up, etc.  One day we had a bad argument.  I couldn't even tell you about what it was now, all I remember is sitting on the floor playing with Connor and he got upset, and walked out of the house with no shoes on.  It was summer, scorching hot pavement and he just walked up the road.   Once he came back, he had blisters on the bottom of his feet!  We were a young new couple and did not know the ins and outs of how to deal with our disagreements.  We made up and went on. Then came, A WEEKEND TO REMEMBER!  Family Life is amazing and let me tell you, transformed our marriage.  I always loved Anthony, I knew I would NEVER leave him, I respected him (at least I thought I was), I was being a wife (at least I thought I was), this weekend away put everything in perspective for both of us and forever impacted our marriage.  I wasn't respecting my husband the way I should, I wasn't being the wife he needed me to be or that I should be.  We cried pretty much the whole weekend (not surprising right? we are an emotional couple) haha, but no, not the whole weekend, but enough to see the light and how we wanted our marriage to be and how we wanted our marriage to be for our family.

Husbands: leaders of our household.  An incredible blessing and major responsibility.  I sometimes feel like their responsibilities and the pressure they feel is vastly overlooked. I can honestly say, I do not think it's a role I could handle.  We took a class at church called "Growing Kids Gods Way".  Chapter 4 (I memorized this, that's how much it impacted me), the Father's Mandate!  Mandate: this word even sounds like a lot of pressure. This was an in depth Godly lesson about the role a father plays in his children's lives and how to manage it. As a stay at home Mom now, I fall into the trap of forgetting the immense pressure that my husband experiences.  I'm home all day, raising our children, taking care of our home, doctors appointments, dental appointments, everything involved with our children.  Once he comes home, I feel like my day has just been much more than his.  Like he was just out sledding for the day.  He's not.  He's at work. Has a two our commute, which car rides are taxing in themselves. I'm home and have been caring for our children all day, I feel like I'm the leader of the household, because all day, it's just me. I am not.  Anthony makes the big decisions for our family.  What cars we should own, when we should do maintenance, remembering to pay the bills, etc.  Being a Godly man and role model for our sons. All for our family. 

 I have to constantly remind myself that it's not just how he acts.  It's not just how he shows love for me as his wife, it's equally as important for the Mom too.   I want my boys to see me adoring their Dad.  See me take care of him, supporting him; even when he makes a decision that I don't necessarily agree with, he's the final word and carry on. Seeing how a wife should treat their husbands because that is what I would want for them.  I want them to have wives that will adore them. All days will not be full of roses, disagreements will happen! It's just all in how we handle it.  To not argue in from of our children, to control our speech towards each other. 

Both roles, Mothers and Fathers, Husband and Wives are both very important in their own ways.  I am not down playing a Mother's role by any means, we are EQUALLY important, just in a different ways.  He is a gift! Don't forget to treat him as one :)    

 

Today:  Greet your husband in a way you usually wouldn't! :)